'There are answers in music' - Willie Nelson 

Survival guide (Resilience)

This is a quick overview of the survival guide. If you just want to listen to the music on this theme click on the links below:
* Hear my pain
* Keeping going
* Positive thinking

Highly recommended: 'Don't Give Up' by Peter Gabriel and
Kate Bush (

Although this jukebox is about music with lyrics that inspire you, records, you will remember also had a B-side. So this section of the site does contains songs to keep you going when things get tough. Classics like 'I Will Survive'. But it also includes songs that don't let you avoid the pain. Songs about the human condition. About issues that are common to many people such as problems between parents and children, pretending to be something you're not and death. I've included these as I've found getting in contact with the pain and letting it out, in sobs or yells, can be healing for me. I can feel better in my body, as well as more open and honest in spirit. If I share the experience with people I trust it can also encourage closeness and combat shame.

As I have said elsewhere, music therapists suggest that listening to positive music may not always lift us. We may need to get there more gently by listening first to music that matches our mood. Then slowly nudging it in a more positive direction before we get to Louis Armstrong's 'It's A Wonderful World' at full blast.

I know other people who also find power in listening to lyrics about other folk's pain. It helps that they know that they aren't alone.

So 'enjoy' the pain in the jukebox - but there are no sad love songs. You probably have loads in your CD collection or iPod already.

Check out the book 'Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' by Susan Jeffers if you want some ideas on how to survive or thrive in emotionally stressful situations.

I have recommended Co-counselling International on other pages as teaching good tools to deal with feelings. I'd also suggest you look at the section on
5 Rhythms. If you are more into moving your body than words, you might find this is an excellent way of moving your emotions too. (And keep fit.)

If you are in great emotional pain or feel suicidal, ring the Samaritans for support. In the UK their number is 08457 90 90 90. You may also want to contact a mental health professional.

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